The truly revolutionary promise of our nation's founding document is the freedom to pursue happiness-with-a-capital-H.
How can you tell somebody who is pursuing happiness that they're somehow not American when that was the very first promise that America made?
Resentment has a way of metastasizing into bitterness, and bitterness has a way of curdling into the kind of anger that can doom a relationship.
I'm allergic to dogs, so I couldn't even adopt what gay men typically adopt when they have that maternal gene.
I didn't want kids to think that to be happy, they had to be famous or rich or live in the big city.
One man's blasphemy doesn't override other people's free-speech rights, their freedom to publish, freedom of thought.
Christmas can have a real melancholy aspect, 'cause it packages itself as this idea of perfect family cohesion and love, and you're always going to come up short when you measure your personal life against the idealized personal lives that are constantly thrust in our faces, primarily by TV commercials.
Straight couples don't have to be monogamous to be married or married to be monogamous. Monogamy no more defines marriage than the presence of children does. Monogamy isn't compulsory and its absence doesn't invalidate a marriage.
School is very conformist, and one of the very first conforming that goes on in preschool and kindergarten is gender.
Children have a right to some stability and constancy from the adults in their lives.
My dad was a homicide cop in the gay neighborhood in the city when gay neighborhoods were desperate, depressing, sad places run by the mob. The only gay people he'd met when I came out to him were corpses.
Sometimes I talk to religious people about my column or what I do, and I ask them to, you know, read 20 or 30 of them and then come tell me that the message at the heart of every column isn't, 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.' In every possible sense.
A lot of kids are bullied because of their sexual identity or expression. It's often the effeminate boys and the masculine girls, the ones who violate gender norms and expectations, who get bullied.
A lot of people are living their lives online in much more public ways with Facebook and Twitter.
Really, when it comes to gay rights, there's two wars going on. The first war is political. But the culture war is over.
It's going to take generations of gay people marrying before these things start to feel natural. We haven't had it long enough to remake it as our own, so it does feel like you're getting dressed up in straight drag to do it.
Every question is a hypothetical question for everyone but the person who asks it.
The cultural expectation should be if there's infidelity, the marriage is more important than fidelity.
I got picked on a lot, even by teachers too. I liked to listen to musicals and bake, and my homeroom teacher found out and mocked me in front of the whole class for baking.
The mistake that straight people made was imposing the monogamous expectation on men. Men were never expected to be monogamous.
