Because every decision impacts everything that follows. Especially the wrong ones.
Some secrets are never supposed to be discovered. But if you're real lucky, when you're least expecting it, the most incriminating secrets will show themselves.
Love can lie too.
Sometimes, things just happen. Things that will change everything. Things that change you.
But that's the funny thing about love. Sometimes love can be deceiving. And sometimes, in the worst cases, love isn't love at all.
C. Dick helped me discover that I was no longer interested in redefining myself just to please a man, and I found out I could end a relationship simply because it wasn't meeting my needs.
Selfishness in the dominant dating culture most clearly manifests itself in the attitude that human relationships, and by implication people themselves, are disposable.
Repeat after me: I only invest my energy into people who invest in me. I only date people who intentionally want to get to know me. I do not chase people and try to convince them to like me.
f you shift your perspective and stop expecting your relationship is supposed to MAKE you happy, you stop giving your power to someone else. You'll stop feeling entitled that it's someone's responsibility to make you feel good
I can see now that it's the little things, the small efforts, that keep a relationship going. And I know now that too in some small measure I have the power to hurt him and also the power to make it better.
Before you enter into a romantic relationship with any guy, I highly encourage you to ask yourself these three questions too. Is this guy a genuine Christian? Are we both mature enough to enter into a serious relationship? Could I see myself potentially marrying him?
Just because we loved each other and wanted to get married didn't automatically mean we should.
If your dating relationship is sustained by sin, what will sustain your marriage?
If a guy pressures you to compromise sexually, he is not showing you Christlike, agape love. He's not encouraging you toward purity and holiness. He's not striving to honor God in that area of the relationship. He's focusing on his wants and is sadly using you to satisfy them. He's being selfish and putting his desires above all else.
Contrary to Hollywood's shallow messages about true love, marriage isn't so much about fireworks and perfect matches as it is about lasting, sacrificial commitment. It's about selflessly agreeing to love another human being until you die. It's about choosing to join lives as a team to serve and glorify God together.
In our modern day and age, words like faithfulness, lifelong commitment, and covenant are not very popular. Instead, we prefer words such as soul mate, true love, and happiness. But the truth is, these feelings-based words do not produce the type of enduring marriages that we long for.
Valentine's Day is just another day to truly love like there is no tomorrow.
Choosing a husband will be one of the biggest decisions you will ever make. This will be the man you will spend the rest of your life with. You will fall asleep next to him at night. Wake up next to him in the morning. Spend holidays together. Raise children together. Be grandparents together. Create your best memories together. Share your hardest moments together.
Where is this guy going in life? Does he have a kingdom mindset? Do we share similar passions for life? Could I support his vision as his wife and teammate? Would we make a better team together than apart?
I quickly learned that it takes a lot more than good looks and passion to maintain long-term love.