Life can take so many twists and turns. You canβt ever count yourself out. Even if youβre really afraid at some point, you canβt think that thereβs no room for you to grow and do something good with your life.
I don't know where this pressure came from. I can't blame my parents because it has always felt internal. Like any other parent, my mother celebrated the A grades and the less-than-A grades she felt there was no need to tell anybody about. But not acknowledging the effort that ended in a less than perfect result impacted me as a child. If I didn't win, then we wouldn't tell anyone that I had even competed to save us the embarrassment of acknowledging that someone else was better. Keeping the secret made me think that losing was something to be ashamed of, and that unless I was sure I was going to be the champion there was no point in trying. And there was certainly no point to just having fun.
Playing roles in any relationship is false and will inevitably lead to the relationship's collapse. Noone can be any one thing all the time.
When I was anorexic it just seemed like I literally wanted to disappear. And now I would like to reappear.
When you have the paparazzi hiding in the bushes outside your home, the only thing you can control is how you respond publicly.
I've had so many interviews where the last question is, Are you gay? I had to find very creative ways to say that I was gay, but that I wasn't going to talk about it.
I stumbled into acting and just loved it. I deferred law school-and I'm still deferred.
I really never stopped thinking about Ellen, because I just haven't felt that kind of energy with anyone in my life.
I ran into Ellen at a photo shoot. She took my breath away. That had never happened to me in my life.
I saw Ellen and my knees were weak. It was amazing. And it was very hard for me to get her out of my mind after that. Then when I saw her that night, we started talking, and that's that.
My feelings for Ellen overrode all of my fear about being out as a lesbian. I had to be with her, and I just figured I'd deal with the other stuff later.
When I watched Ellen come out in '97, my jaw was on the floor. I thought, There are some people who break the doors down, hold them open, and some people who walk right through.
I married him for a green card. We had a really great, caring relationship; it just obviously wasn't right for me.
In high school I had sex with girls quite a few times. They were straight women who I convinced to jump in the sack with me.
My sexuality is a part of me that I really like. But it's not the totality of me.
It sounds so trite, but my private life is mine.
