So you didnβt tell me it was a messed-up idea to keep this all a secret because. . .β Because experience is the only teacher,β Hey-Soos says. βEven if I could have told you, it would have been a lecture. Why do you think kids donβt listen to their parents, or people donβt leave churches and do what the preacher tells them? Thereβs only one thing thatβs universal.β Whatβs that?β The truth.