If you want to reclaim your life, start by reclaiming your time.
If you can create work that enhances your life...do it! But most people, sadly, lose their lives on their work...unnecessarily.
I think when men hear that women want a commitment, they think it means commitment to a romantic relationship, but that's not it. It's a commitment to not floating around anywhere. I want a guy who is entrenched in his own life.