When many people become bonded into one self, as an endogroup, an artificial person is created as an ideal. This endogroup ideal, or endo-ideal becomes the group. Its identity is adopted by every member of the group and the individuals also become the endogroup. The group identity subsumes the self for all except the endo-ideal, creating a special subset of reality which here we will call an endoreality
An endogroup acts as an individual self. It therefore needs only one mind to lead it, or the ideology of one mind. Those that become the endo-ideal are forever entitled to the service of others and ownership of the group. Those that become the reflectors are forever assigned to the service of others and the duty to reflect. Those that are cast as the negative image are condemned to carry all guilt and undergo all penance.
There are four elements of a healthy self: a personal membrane, euphoria, euphoric conduits and a drive to exosocial expansion. The obstacles to creating this self are endosocial membranes.
Guilt is an acknowledgment of debt for unbalanced transactions.
The acceptance of guilt and debt is the mark of a negative image and the wait for atonement is the mark of a reflector.
Psychology has left humanity with the saddest of all creation myths and the means to mask their pain through drugs and normalized exploitation of others. Perhaps we could try again.
Sometimes, the one you love isn't the one for you and this doesn't apply only in relationships, but also among relatives.