The most empowering thing one can do is give themselves permission to fully love themselves. Often we experience relationships that are toxic and we block ourselves off from love in all directions including within. The most important thing to remember is your relationship with your being is crucial for yourself and all other relationships.
When you have your best interest at heart, because your first relationship is with yourself and you will not have someone else’s best interest at heart before having your own, you wouldn’t purposely choose to open yourself up to a detrimental experience. You would apply your knowingness and understand the importance of choosing to enter into situations that preserve your inner work.
You must understand your individual temperament and have an awareness of your inner voice. What often happens when you enter into a relationship and you have no previous knowledge of your perception of love and your ability to be love, you begin to look for it within another one. Which is a dangerous thing because the tide of relationship will always be changing based on your perception of the idea of the love you are experiencing.
Since they don’t yet understand the purpose of the relationship and it lacks the intention to move forward in a particular direction they find themselves extending more and more to the other person hoping to find a deeper connection but really they are just filling a void. A void which would not be there if each individual had a knowingness of who they are and entered into the relationship with awareness and commitment to cultivate a union that went beyond meeting surface needs and replaying of karmic patterns.
Since they don’t yet understand the purpose of the relationship and it lacks the intention to move forward in a particular direction they find themselves extending more and more to the other person hoping to find a deeper connection but really they are just filling a void. A void which would not be there if each individual had a knowingness of who they are and entered into the relationship with awareness and commitment to cultivate a union that went beyond meeting surface needs and replaying of karmic patterns.
When you lack awareness you haven’t yet cultivated a knowing of what is in alignment with your highest good. When it comes to sharing yourself sexually in order to form a deeper bond, or so you perceive, you are really just temporarily filling a void. You are now tied energetically to this person in which you had no specific intention towards, other than a “fun” experience. You have also forged a stronger emotional and mental tie to this person, and may find yourself stuck in limbo, so to say, when it comes to the relation-situation. It will take inner work and self-development to undo these ties.
Some of us keep searching outwards but at some point instinctively you realize that when you’ve accumulated everything there’s nothing else left outside of you. It happens as an internal realization, that after you conquer everything that you were set out to conquer you need something deeper, you need something more and love is that more.
When we agree to enter into relationship it’s an agreement to throw away our self-serving desires for the purpose of working together. Throwing away self-serving desires is not throwing away your self-care and personal growth. It’s instead opening up and extending yourself to the other person to work with you to grow and vice versa while still maintaining your own growth.
Dream big, dream fearless and dream beyond limits! Visualize it, Believe and Take Action!, Do not allow anything or anyone to hinder or limit you. Challenges come to strengthen you! No, it is not easy but worth it!