When the side effects knock you down, find the strength to get up, because you are a soldier. Youâve paid your dues, and nobody can hurt you because your foundation is solid. You are not broken down anymore. The Grim Reaper cannot steal your joy. You are no longer its victim. You are victorious, feeling good and living free! The âtreatmentâ gave you a turbocharge to find a cure. The cure is to love yourself more and to put yourself first.
You might not see it now, but you are stronger than you can ever imagine. You cannot become comfortable in your pain. You have to let the pain that you feel turn you into a rose without thorns. There are sixteen pieces on the chess board. The king is the most important piece, but the difference is that the queen is the most powerful piece! You are a queen, you can maneuver around your opponents; they do not have the power over your life, your mind or soul. You might think youâve been a prisoner, but that is your pastâ Look in the now and work your way to how you want your future to be. Exercise your thoughts into a pattern of letting go, and think positively about more of what you want than what you do not want. Queen! You are a queen! As a matter of fact, you are the queen! Act as if you know it! You are powerful, determined, strong, and you can make the biggest and most extravagant move and put it into action. Lights, camera, strike a pose and own it! It is yours to own!
Youâve lost a lot, but youâve gained closure. You are now balanced, centered, focused, and filled with peace surrounding you in your heart, mind, body, and soul. Your pride was hurt, but you would rather walk alone and be more willing to give and learn more about the queen you are.
Not only do you carry the side effects of others, but their side effects are contagious. This affects you mentally to the point where you lose yourself in the process of trying to fix a situation or a person that is beyond repair. You find yourself helping others who solely depend on you for their mental state and their ability to think for themselves. Foolishly, you do not see how often you carry their burdens. Their side effects begin to poison your life.
When it rains, it pours but that isnât a bad thing. Take advantage of the rain as it washes away all of the residues that the side effects left behind. As you confront your side effects, walk with pride, do not turn back, face them head-on. Nothing can faze you now because the rain is clearing your path. After the rain has washed away the side effects, their powers are watered down. Therefore, they can no longer interrupt your peace, kill your joy or steal your happiness. The side effectsâ time has expired. It is time to put an end once and for all to carrying everyoneâs dirty load. Leave them where they lie. Let them figure out their own messes and bad decisions. Take a breather and let it go. I bet the load is so much lighter!
The side effects of others become a hazard because this sucks the life out of you, and you begin to neglect yourself, but they do not care. As long as you are doing for them and supplying their needs, they are fine. Their faces are the same on a daily basis, but the person you do not recognize is yourself. Their side effects begin to make you sick, yet you ignore the signs. The warning signs have been there for years, but again, you push yourself because you feel like someday soon you will finally make them happy.
You have to realize it is impossible to be the shero to everyone. There comes a time when you have to make a difficult decision to say no to the ones you love. If not, you will be fighting a never-ending battle that you will lose every time. Sad but true, you have to be cruel to be kind, otherwise, you will be defeated.
My character was tested because I didnât think I would have to compromise so much of who I was as a person. I changed so much because I gave so much of me and lost myself in the process. Sadly, when I lost myself, I did not notice. It just happened; it was more of a habit I formed to adjust. I was damaged from the inside out because my life wasnât mine anymore. I was someone I had to be; not who I wanted to be. I wasnât someone that made âmeâ happy. I made everyone else happy, and it wasnât enough. Losing yourself is scary.
You lost yourself in the process, but the more you learn about the new you, the more you will be so much in love with yourself. The more you learn about the new you, the more you will know your worth. The more you learn about the new you, the happier you are going to be, and this time around you will be smiling inside and out!
The ripple effect is change. Eventually, the rings of the ripples change; they either become smaller or wider in length. No matter the size, sooner or later, the ripple will vanish, but the question isâdid it leave an effect or was it pointless? What impact does the ripple effect have on you? Will you reach for great heights, or will you let the ripple effectâs âpurposeâ pass you by?
Another one bites the dust. I am reaping the benefit of self-fulfillment and self-control. I am worthy of all the good things in life.
During one of my biggest struggles, the ripple effect was at its worst. I felt as though the ripple was going to turn into a whirlpool â to the point where I thought I was going to drown. My head was under the water and my hands were reaching for something to hold on to. Sadly, there wasnât anyone or anything I could take hold of. However, when I trusted the waves, they carried me to a peaceful place in my mind, to the hidden aspects of my true self where I could explore my options. I had to find comfort in what was given and make the best of it.
A woman lives under pressure on a daily basis. Nearly every day a woman is being criticized for the way she looks, thinks, acts, how she raises her children and her role in the workplace. She is criticized by other women, her husband and/or significant other, her children, family, and friends. Goodness gracious, when will a womanâs love ever be good enough? She's constantly beaten down by being told what sheâs doing wrong, and barely hears what she has done right. Needless to say, she isnât praised for her accomplishments; often, all she hears is criticism. I would love to see the detractors walk in her shoes for a while.
When Iâd had enough of my kindness being taken for weakness, I felt like I was floating in the ocean. Peopleâs actions toward me were like the crashing of the waves. Their words and actions were like tides that took me further and deeper into the deep. I didnât have anything to hold on to but the flow of the water kept me afloat. When the tides took me further out, I floated on my back and went with the flow. The water became my friend as it taught me not to panic in trying times.
I decided to choose: No more sadness because of how someone else will feel. No more hiding my feelings. No more avoiding the truth of how I felt. No more unresolved situations. No more letting people rob me of my happiness and joy and letting life pass me by. No more misery and selling myself short. No more letting people take and steal my inner peace. No more giving a shit about what other people think of meâthey are going to form their opinion anywayâand the question is, who cares? Not me. Thatâs the least of my worries. No more giving everyone the best of me. It is time for me to fall in love with myself and give myself ALL of me!
It is important to keep one foot in front of the other. As a woman, you have to fake it until you make it. There will be a lot of twists and turns. There will mountains that are steep and seem to be too high to climb. However, where thereâs a will, thereâs a way. Giving up isnât an option. Never-ending obstacles pile up one after another. The process seems to repeat itself over and over again without a solution. Youâve been here before. Where does it end? When does it end? Things seem to stay the same or they become worse than before. How many times do you have to compromise? You cannot continue to carry everyoneâs burdens and their side effects as if everything is just fine
Yes, you loved, and loved so much. You also lost as well, but you lost hurt, pain, agony, and confusion. Youâve lost interest in wanting to know answers to unanswered questions. Youâve lost the willingness to give a shit about what others think. Youâve surrendered to being fine, that you cannot change the things you have no control over.
Dear Fallen Warrior, you will not fall apart. Not all wars are meant to have weapons. Your armor is your mind, peace, happiness, driveâand your life. You are powerful! You are unique! You are a warrior because you are the chosen one!!