Donât be afraid to step out, enjoy, and be free from everyoneâs worries. It is time to live for yourself without guilt or baggage. Smell the fresh air of freedom. You deserve it!
Here and now, you are making a vow to love yourself wholeheartedly. Self-fulfillment is your outer and inner peace. You are loving the change in the wind. You have a sound mind. You are not worried about the things you cannot change. Storms come to clear the air. Your mind is renewed as you gain and fulfill your purpose in life.
Youâre in the process of learning who you are, and you are loving every step. Youâve moved past needing the approval of others. The counterfeit emotions you once had from their judgment has burned away in the fire. You are the author of your story, you are the narrative, and you choose to live and enjoy life!
Trailblazer, you are a warrior! Other peopleâs actions gave you a head start because you recognized the red flags and knew that wasnât the right way to go. The force of awareness broadened your vision; you had the keen insight of an eagle. You knew when to soar in the sky with ease and peace. You also knew when to suit up as you looked down and hunted for your prey. The best part of it all was, just as they thought theyâd got the best of you, you attacked at the right time, and they never saw it coming.
A young lady is taught to never fuss or complain, and to always keep a smile on her face. When a young lady speaks her mind, she is labeled as being impolite and is told to be cautious and mindful of what she says. Something to think about...
We accumulate otherâs people debts and make them our own. As we make them our own, their responsibilities fall solely on us. Now is the time to transfer their debt back into their account and let them figure out how they going to pay off their own debt. We, as women, need to realize we are not responsible for other peopleâs debts, only our own, and we will finally see the load will be a lot lighter. We have to stop making life easy for other people. We give them life, yet they take life from us. We want to live, and it starts with self-fulfillment!
Trailblazer, you are a warrior! At times, are you underestimated? There were so many sacrifices you made, and afterward, you felt like pure shit. The resentment pulled and spread like mold, and the moldâs side effects made you sick and disgusted from loving so hard and losing so much. The ripple effects crossed each other as they manipulated your mind to think negative thoughts. However, the ripple effects also opened your heart to feel and know how to love yourself. As you started your journey of self-fulfillment, all the hell youâve been through changed you from a fallen warrior into a fearless powerful force with fabulous potential!
When a young lady no longer plays with baby dolls or toy kitchens, and sheâs trying to find where she fits in todayâs society, she is told she needs to learn how to cook, clean, wash, and provide for her husband and family. Why is that so?
After we become a daughter, we become a wife to our husbands and a mother to our children. I believe that is why a woman smiles through the pain because she was always told what she couldnât or shouldnât do. Regardless of this, she believed in herself and made it happen.
Instead of being groomed for her future husband and/or career, a young lady should be first taught to love herself. I am a firm believer that if you put yourself first and find out who you are as a person, everything else will fall into place. Sadly, that is not what a young lady is taught. We are taught to love others and to put everyoneâs needs before our own. We are taught to make sacrifices at an early age to the point where we do not know any better as we age. The edges of our life are rough because we do not know who we are as a person.
A young lady is supposed to be classy, kind, generous, and respectful. She is told she should not display any anger and/or badmouth her peers. A young lady is told to think âinside the boxâ and to limit her expectations because her husband will provide for her in the future. A young lady is taught to never fuss or complain and to always keep a smile on her face. When a young lady speaks her mind, she is told that she is not acting âladylikeâ. When a young lady steps out of her comfort zone to challenge herself to fight for what she wants, she is told she is not acting âladylikeâ. When a young lady plays a sport, and at times she may be aggressive, she is told that she is not acting âladylikeâ When a young lady is bossy, she is told to humble herself, because that is not acting âladylikeâ. Maybe she isnât bossy, maybe she is confident within herself, has high self-esteem and knows she can dare to be different.
Most importantly, a little girl should be taught that she should love herself first, flaws (thorns) and all. However, sheâs been raised as a rose without knowing how to handle the pricks from the thorns. Sheâs left alone to learn how to heal.
There were many pioneers who came before you that also felt a sense of hopelessness. They were judged because they were women. At times they felt helpless but that didnât stop them from making their mark as they made changes in the world which people thought were impossible. They made themselves into believers because of their accomplishments. These pioneers did not have the technology and resources that we have today. However, they used what they were given, which was their God-given talent. âWe will be heard, seen, and are untouchable.â The pioneerâs voices were rising louder, stronger, and their voices were heard as they made the impossible, possible. Their mentality was, âWe will not be ignored. We are human and we should be created equally, just like men.â As they rose to the challenges they endured, their great strength of determination spoke without the need for words.
We have to realize that we are a powerful force. If we work together, we can make a huge difference in the world, despite our race or religion. If we, as women, dare to come together we can help each other conquer our fears. We can help each other become wiser by teaching and learning from each other. We need to lift each other up more. Reach down to lend a helping hand. Reach up and tell your sisters of all races and religions, âI am here for you.â After all of the sacrifices weâve made for others, surely, we can make sacrifices for each other. As much as we women have loved (and most definitely lost) due to heartbreak, being unappreciated, and working hard on a daily basis, why do we put each other down? Why do we use each other? What is the point in competing? Donât we have enough going against us as it is? We should be able to come together and love one another. We should be able to help each other recover from our losses. That is what I call a powerful force.
The young lady was once a rose without thorns because she was taught how to take care of everyone else, as opposed to taking care of herself. After the betrayals, hurt, pain and bitterness, she becomes a rose with thorns. However, the thorns pricked and scared her, because she was groomed to be what other people wanted her to be. Now she has to learn how to handle the thorns of life on her own. As the thorns grow thicker and sharper, her personality changes; she is now labeled as bitter, quick-tempered, and a bad influence on others because her attitude has changed. Sad to say, the same people who molded her to be the âperfectâ young lady, are the ones who are back-biting her. They fail to realize it was their doing. Everyone should be born with thorns so that they are entitled to make mistakes and learn from them. They will know how it feels to love, to be loved, and to know how to heal if love doesnât work out accordingly.
Why canât a young lady, learn how to cook, clean and wash clothes so she can learn how to take care of herself? It is imperative that a young lady should know how to love and take care of herself first before she feels she can love and take care of anyone else. That is where the mistakes begin. A young lady is brought up to put others first. This is when a woman grows up and plays the fool for others because her self-worth was never built on solid ground. Instead, it was built on being a âpeople pleaserâ and putting her life on the back burner. Consequently, her feelings didnât matter, and her thoughts didnât exist because for so long she was taught to put other people before herself. The question that is never asked is, what happens when a woman (who was once a young lady groomed to give every ounce of herself) loses herself to the point where she has to find a way to dig herself out of the deepest hole? This seems impossible. She doesnât know how because she wasnât ever taught how to express her feelings, troubles, and/or grieve.
As they throw more stones, let them fall where they may. In my opinion, the more rings in the ripple effect the better! Needless to say, they are giving you the opportunity to exchange their hate, backbiting, and negative energy into valuing and loving yourself more. They are helping you create a thicker skin as you find your happiness and you embrace a fruitful future. âThis is your moment. You are coming into a time of peace and fulfillment. Take it all in! You put up with a lot of peopleâs shit to get where you are today.
Everything has changed and life has taken a turn for the worse. Side effects are making you sick. Sick of life. Sick of struggling. The side effects take a toll on you. You feel yourself trembling, and it is unbearable to breathe and think about whatâs next. You begin to slip into the deep end and feel numb. Your thoughts drift as the side effects get closer and closer to the point that you want to give up. The more and more they pull you underneath you canât help but think, I do not have any fight left in me. Wake-up call! You have a lot to lose. You have more fight in you than you ever knew. You didnât give yourself the opportunity to love yourself. You didnât give yourself the ability to live and love life. You have given so much to others. Imagine, if you gave to yourself what youâve given to others, what life would be like. Do not get lost in the deep end. You have to live for the now. Believe it or not, everything will fall into place. It doesnât look like it at the moment, but better days lie ahead.
The dots are now connecting. You feel alive! You know now that all is not lost. Now that youâve cut the cord it is time give your heart a second chance at loving yourself. Silence your mind. Take a deep breath and close your eyes. As you open your eyes, look at your reflection in the mirror. Arenât you beautiful, Queen? Embrace who you are. Smile, laugh, welcome the new you and say, âMy world is just now beginning.