My role models were childless: Virginia Woolf, Jane Austen, George Eliot, the Brontes.
A daydreamer is prepared for most things.
I think it's very important for writers and artists generally to be witnesses to the world, and to be transparent. To let other people speak... to travel... to experience the world. And memorialize it.
I would suggest the widow do things the husband used to do, so he seems to be there with you. You will feel like just going to bed. It's so wonderful, going to bed.
I should say, one of the things about being a widow or a widower, you really, really need a sense of humor, because everything's going to fall apart.
When you are writing literary writing, you are communicating something subtextual with emotions and poetry. The prose has to have a voice; it's not just typing. It takes a while to get that voice.