Dealing with toxic people is an art that can be learnt. Whether it is in a family, among friends or at the workplace, exercise a choice to establish and maintain clear contours of your relationship with such people. Define very clearly in your mind what about this person irks you. And draw the line there. The point is not whether others can get along with such people, the point is that you cannot suffer them. So, when others ask you to be āadjustingā, you must tell them why you canāt do this ā that it affects your inner peace. Once you define and draw the boundaries clearly, barring the initial settling in issues, pretty soon, everyone will see value in your approach. Clearly, thereās no point sacrificing your Happiness for anotherās behavior or your reluctance to call them out!
Other Quotes by "AVIS Viswanathan"
Your job is to set out on Lifeās journey as a voyager, which you already have by having been born (an act that, well, happened beyond you!). Lifeās job is to reach you to the shore, which it eventually will, but not before it has tossed you up and down and churned your insides several times over. So, donāt sweat over anything. It is simply not worth it! Remember: your Lifeās happening exactly the way it must. Train your mind to be non-worrying, non-frustrated and non-suffering. Be happy! Let Life take over, you simply go with the flowā¦!
Even if the world says so, and you know it too, that you have genius, donāt allow it to carry you away. You are, just like anybody else is, ordinary. You are a mere instrument that Life uses to express itself. āYourā art is actually not even yours ā it comes from a divine Source, flows through you, so it can touch the world. So, no matter how talented, famous and wealthy you are, know that you are just a microphone, a messenger, that is amplifying a message that is passing through you. How can a messenger ever take credit for the message? This doesnāt mean you must not celebrate yourself or market yourself well or profit economically. Surely, you may! But do it being fully aware that without the Source choosing you, without āyourā art flowing through you, there would be no acclaim, no recognition. So, stay humble, stay grateful!
Donāt grieve that your child has a problem. Donāt wish for the problem to go away either. And certainly donāt imagine that ābad timesā have befallen your child owing to ābad karmaā! The truth is that no matter what you do or wish for, your child has to go through what they have to go through. Just as Life happened to you in its own unique way, it will happen to your child too. You canāt change that reality. Nor can you live your childās Life. So, be practical. Be available for your child surely and invest in prayer. A crisis is Lifeās way of coaching your child. So, pray that your child learns to face Life, not fight it or run away from it! Pray that your child evolves spiritually from the experience ā often growing stronger, wiser and happy from it.
When you wish pain and suffering on someone who wronged you, what is actually happening is that you are still cooking within yourself. You are the one who is suffering. And you are expressing this suffering by wishing that your perpetrator must also suffer. Now, this reaction is normal; it is human to feel this way. But if you pause and reflect quietly, you will see the futility of causing your own suffering. If you must fight your perpetrator legally, do that. But do that dispassionately, without acrimony; let it simply be a clinical process. You donāt have to even forgive the person if you really are not feeling like it yet. But stop wishing that they suffer. Thatās a big step forward in your own healing. When you take this step, over time, you will realize that Life always serves retribution at its own pace and that nothing liberates you as much as forgiveness does!
When you are confronted with many problems at the same time, donāt be overwhelmed or emotional and attempt to solve all of them at the same time. You simply canāt. Approach your problems with basic project management skills. Sort your problems into different buckets: A. which ones cannot be solved ever B. which ones cannot be solved by you C. which ones can be solved by you over time and D. which ones can be solved by you immediately? Obviously, go to work today on bucket D, while planning to schedule time and collaborations to address buckets C and B. Of course, learn to accept those in bucket A with humility and equanimity and move on. This is the only way you can focus sharply, be calm and find strength in a storm and be happy!
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