The best way a writer can find to keep himself going is to live off his (or her) spouse. The trouble is that, psychologically at least, itβs hard. Our culture teaches none of its false lessons more carefully than that one should never be dependent. Hence the novice or still unsuccessful writer, who has enough trouble believing in himself, has the added burden of shame. Itβs hard to be a good writer and a guilty person; a lack of self-respect creeps into oneβs prose.