If you approach the idea of relationships with the goal of finding the perfect person you will miss the bigger purpose of being in a relationship with another. When you choose to instead honor the person who you are in a relationship with you receive the lesson and the growth that the relationship can facilitate.
Just please understand that everyone is going through a rough time as well. Even if they are hiding behind money or a simple smile. We are all continuously stumbling as we go about our lives. If we had perfect lives we'd all be perfect people. Only thing we can learn to do is endure or we will not be happy and happiness is the closest thing to perfect.
Once you start questioning your beliefs, that's when it's all over. It is truly doubt that kills our conviction.
After you hear and listen. First must come desire. Second must come willingness. Third should come understanding. Fourth should come progression and with progression will come more understanding..