When you make a mistake for the first time, you should pardon yourself; the second time you make the same mistake, you should suffer the consequences for your stupidity folly; everyone makes mistakes, but only the wise learn from them.
Most people believe they have complete control of their free will regarding their actions and values. That is simply is a myth because our actions are influenced substantially but external factors. While some philosophers differ regarding the extent, we control free will, the vast majority believe external factors have a fundamental role. However, most do agree humans are in total control of their moral code, personal ethics and social values.