You are acting as though there is a choice in who you love. It doesn’t really work that way. You love who you love.” “Now you’re being ridiculous. Of course love is a choice.” “Being in a relationship with someone is a choice. Loving them isn’t. There are plenty of people divorced today who still love one another. And there are a bunch of people out there who love someone with everything they have, but choose not to be with them because they’re addicts or they’re unreliable, or they cheated. The choosing to be with someone or not part, that is a choice. But who you end up falling for, that is completely out of your control.