Evolving sometimes only becomes an option when we stop being one, because of better ones.
When you leave your well-being under the responsibility of another person the result will never be ideal, because the only one able to take care of you very well is yourself.
Dependent on someone else's approval to feel good can make you always subject to the choices they make in life.
Develop first in yourself what attracts you to someone so that it is possible to find the person who matches you.
When you are able to hit the target frequently, you also become one because of its predictability, assertiveness and competence.