Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.
Tags: self-confidence, self-care, manners, love, giving-others-space, awarness

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To be changed by ideas was pure pleasure. But to learn ideas that ran counter to values and beliefs learned at home was to place oneself at risk, to enter the danger zone. Home was the place where I was forced to conform to someone elseโ€™s image of who and what I should be. School was the place where I could forget that self and, through ideas, reinvent myself.
Tags: school, education
Giving generously in romantic relationships, and in all other bonds, means recognizing when the other person needs our attention. Attention is an important resource.
Tags: romance, resource, relationship, recognition, giving, bond, attention
But many of us seek community solely to escape the fear of being alone. Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape.
Tags: solitude, relationship, love, loneliness, fear, escape, community, aloneness
The practice of love offers no place of safety. We risk loss, hurt, pain. We risk being acted upon by forces outside our control.
Tags: security, saftey, risk, practice, pain, love, loss, hurt, force, control
All too often women believe it is a sign of commitment, an expression of love, to endure unkindness or cruelty, to forgive and forget. In actuality, when we love rightly we know that the healthy, loving response to cruelty and abuse is putting ourselves out of harm's way.
Tags: unkindness, relationship, love, health, harm, forgiveness, endurance, curelty, commitment, abuse
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